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• The perfectionist experiences continuous disappointment because
they are rarely content with their work on the first attempt. The
perfectionist nitpicks everything to no avail.
• A perfectionist may hesitate to start a project because they are
anticipating their own criticism and know how frustrated they become
agonizing over every detail.
• The Perfectionist’s self-talk can be very demanding. “I should get
straight A's; I must exceed my boss’ expectations, etc.) “If I can't ace
this project, I’m not even going to try.”
• The motivation of a perfectionist may be rooted in problems with low
self-esteem and self-confidence.
Is there a solution? YES:
• During the project, take breaks to reflect and admire the work that
you’ve done.
• Be mindful of your self-talk. When you notice yourself criticizing the
project, turn the conversation around! “This work is well done. I’ve
given my best effort on this project.”
• Accept that it is impossible to eliminate all mistakes.
• Remember that every student that has ever taken this course has also
had to turn in their work at some point.
Anger/Hostility
– When you are upset with your boss, an instructor, or a
classmate, it is common to “get even” by withholding your efforts.
However, there are very real consequences for you in this situation. You
could lose your job, earn a low grade in the class, or lose the respect of your
classmates.
Is there a solution? YES:
Look at the big picture. How will allowing your frustration in this situation
impact your future? You are not going to let one challenging conversation
with your manager, or how you feel about one instructor stand in the way of
your personal accomplishment, are you?
Low Frustration Tolerance
– You are easily overwhelmed by projects and
assignments. You believe your boss or instructor’s expectations are terribly
unfair. Others experience your frustration as whining and complaining. You
express self-talk such as “it isn't fair,” “this is too hard,” and “no one else has
to do this.” You delay on projects until you “feel better” about doing the
work, but you often feel just as anxious the next day.
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